Men Or Women – Who Writes Better Copy?

Do men and women use language differently?

Do men and women use language differently?

Do men and women use language differently? I believe they do, and in this article I’m going to show you some of the differences, explain why this is vitally important for you to know – and then finally, I’ll tell you which gender is better at writing copy!

For example, this is what I wrote in my latest report:

In my own studies, I noticed that many male copywriters tended to use more aggressive, competitive language [in their sales copy] – they like to “slash”, “slay” and “stomp” the competition.

By contrast, female copywriters tended to use less aggressive language, and more connective, helping language – especially when they are appealing to a mainly female audience.

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Or consider the publishing company Mills & Boon, which specializes in romance novels for a mainly female audience. According to an article in the British newspaper The Guardian, some 200 million Mills & Boon novels are sold every year – far more than Harry Potter!

All of the Mills & Boon staff writers are female, except for Roger Sanderson, “a gruff former rugby player Yorkshireman writing under the pseudonym Gill”.

The BBC News website wrote a fascinating article (Can a man really write a Mills & Boon?) on this subject. They interviewed academic author Jay Dixon, who had written a study in her book “The Romantic Fiction Of Mills & Boon”, and had read some 3,000 titles herself.

She was able to read some of the unsolicited manuscripts sent in to Mills & Boon, and noticed many differences between the male and female writers, such as the heroine looking in the mirror and admiring herself, “something a woman would never do as she would only see her flaws,” she suggests. Or the male authors tending to go into more details about how something works than women.

By contrast, Roger [Gill] Sanderson seems to have mastered the skill of writing romantic fiction for women. Says Jay Dixon: “I can find nothing in Roger’s romances that would alert even an experienced reader to the fact that he is a man… Roger is one of the few men who does have the knack.”

Now, what does this have to do with you as a writer or copywriter? Well, if you’re writing for someone else (like a client) and you’re using their voice and appealing to their audience… if their audience is mainly male or female, then you need to understand those differences!

Unfortunately for you, I can’t go into all the differences here, but I wanted you to become aware that differences exist. Often, just being aware of something is enough for you to pay attention to how people use language.

It’s why books like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” are hot sellers. Nobody is really from Mars or Venus, but sometimes it appears that way because both sides are using language in a slightly different way. More often than not it’s a communication problem – and part of communication is the way we use our language!

Of course, this is true not just between men and women, but with every group of people. Whether it’s artists, poets, tech geeks, New Agers, Christians, athiests, men or women… each group uses language a little differently.

One technique I use if I want to write in the way a particular group speaks to each other, is I’ll spend time reading forum posts and blog posts written mainly to members of that group – and I’ll pay careful attention to how they speak to one another. Remember, the differences are often very subtle – but they are important enough that it can make the difference between Mars and Venus!

Of course, hopefully by now you realize that my post title was designed to be a little provocative. I don’t personally believe one gender writes better than the other… that’s like asking whether red or blue is better… but I do believe men and women use language a little differently.

And as copywriters, we need to pay attention to those subtle differences… because if we’re writing for a client, we need to make sure our writing connects with their audience!

So now I’ve had my say, it’s your turn. Do you think there is a difference between the way men and women write? Do you think one way is better than the other? Do you have any examples of this in real life or in writing? Let’s turn this into a fun and interesting discussion! Please use the comments section below.

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In my own research I’ve found that there are differences. For example, as part of my own research I compared 10 sales letters which I knew to be written by men, with 10 which I knew were written by women… and I could see some very clear differences when selling their own products or services.

In my own studies, I noticed that many male copywriters tended to use more aggressive, competitive language – they like to “slash”, “slay” and “stomp” the competition.

By contrast, female copywriters tended to use less aggressive language, and more connective, helping language – especially when they are appealing to a mainly female audience.


  1. If you truly knew your audience and how to use language to connect with them, maybe you should have laid off the exclamation points. There are few things copywriters despise more than exclamation points.

  2. I wrote about this topics a year ago, and it applies here:

    The bottom line is this: a great writer writes great copy BECAUSE they can write it in any voice, for any audience. After all, that’s what makes them a great writer! Man or woman.

    Are there differences? Sure. But don’t choose either sex as a criterion for who can write the better copy. Choose the better writer. Focus on the SKILL, not their gender.

  3. @Brenda, thanks for your comment. Surely not ALL copywriters despise exclamations… to me, I quite like them because they convey emotion, although they can definitely be overused.

    @Michel, I enjoyed your article. I agree, the SKILL is more important. That’s why Gill, the Mills & Boon writer, was doing so well… because he knew how to write for his audience, which were mostly female. An important skill, for the copywriter, is being able to write in a voice and style that connects best with his or her audience.

  4. Being a copywriter, I just love your exclamation points! 😉

    Seriously, there are important communication differences between men and women. Somehow it doesn’t get the attention it deserves by copywriters / Internet marketeers.

    Very interested in the new report. When will it be launched?

  5. This was a good read, Paul. I agree that utilizing the right language for your target audience is important for a writer. It can truly make or break your copy. Let me give a live study case.

    Mike Geary, the guy behind, had a sales letter up on his site that was selling to the general market. Sure he made some sales, but in truth he was loosing money from lost sales due to the fact he did not speak the language of his audience properly. Mike had an idea, and he did what many do not do, he tested that idea. Guess what…? It worked!

    What Mike ended up doing was split his abs site into two groups, female and male. At the end of the pre-sale page, he directs each group to their own page. Male to theirs, and female to theirs. Each page conveys the same message, but in a different language. Brilliant! His sales went up drastically. How much? I do not remember, but he now makes millions a year from his product.

    Think about that, and then ponder about your own audience. What language do you need to use in order to convey and sell your product or service better? Do you need to split your sales funnel into two groups? Three? Four?

    Using the appropriate language in your copy, in my mind, is essential to achieving your maximum greatness.

    Just some food for thought 😉

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